Saturday, December 11, 2010
The old spice commercial
absoultely funny apeals to a wider female demographic than an actual male target audience.... hillarious http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=owGykVbfgUE
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Self worth is Choosing to be Be Diva over a " Chained up little person " ...
The best part about being Diva is
· you have the strength to not repeat mistakes
· To forgive but never forget and too live with your decisions and never be fooled
Its your life and you control every part of it!
Well done to every diva that survives
The guard is there to keep the scum out Keep it up and never stumble
never waste tears a moment of sadness is a moment of weakness a moment of pity makes you vulnerable and vulnerability allows the past to repeat itself !
Now I’ll leave you with the words of one of the world’s most notorious Divas Gloria Gaynor … rock the Diva in you ladies !
First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on
and so you're back
from outer space
I just walked in to find you here
with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed my stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me
Go on now go walk out the door
just turn around now
'cause you're not welcome anymore
weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
you think I'd crumble
you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive
It took all the strength I had
not to fall apart
kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart
and I spent oh so many nights
just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
Now I hold my head up high
and you see me
somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person
still in love with you
and so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on
and so you're back
from outer space
I just walked in to find you here
with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed my stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me
Go on now go walk out the door
just turn around now
'cause you're not welcome anymore
weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
you think I'd crumble
you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive
It took all the strength I had
not to fall apart
kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart
and I spent oh so many nights
just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
Now I hold my head up high
and you see me
somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person
still in love with you
and so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
What is Diva - and how peoples opinions shouldn't make you less or more of one !
What is “Diva”
Diva is a state of mind. It is being a hundred percent sure of who you are and what your capability is and then it’s about going out there and superseeding those personal expectations you have for yourself and living your life true to only you, answerable to only you and accountable to the person you strive to be !
Whenever something fuels emotion in me I write about it and thankfully I was fueled recently so here goes. I received unsolicited advice from girl who made it her personal seva to try and enlighten me on how she thinks I need to change my personality
Her words were hurtful at first …but then I taught carefully about what she was saying about how she was describing me.. But what saddened me even more is , this superficial human being had such a skew idea of the term “Diva” and here she was knocking me down so badly that not only did she create emotion in me but she brought out a inner diva that I myself did not know was down there
So her little piece of advice to me was self defeating and ironic because the very term Diva revolves around the principle of not caring about people’s opinions of you…as your own opinion of yourself has more significant value
But before I go on let’s put this in perspective and share the advice I was given because to be fair I cant rant and rave about something without having a basis to start. I've bolded her advice before i respond to it because dealing with something point by point and being specific about what you intend saying is part of been Diva ...
Point 1 :
“I THOUGHT I WOULD INBOX YOU JUST TO UPDATE YOU ON YOUR SELFISH DIVA (NOT) ATTITUDE!”
Firstly and let me be frank about this I never need an update about who I am or my attitude because I live my life according to me and not what everyone else thinks of me so not only is this unsolicited but its not required . how someone could have wasted time even trying to do this baffles me !
I have been raised by many female role models who I make my personal mentors so whenever I need advice I go to them not some pip squeak that doesn’t know me and I have never taken the time or effort to befriend because my first impression of her was that she is just a number with no real value to add to my life !
Point 2 :
“ YOU HAVE A FALSE CONCEPTION THAT YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL, STYLISH, GLAMAROUS,DIVA! WELL, ONE DAY I KNOW THAT YOU WILL THANK ME FOR ENLIGHTENING YOU ,AS TO THE TRUTH...YOU MY DEAR UGLY DUCKLING ARE FAR FROM ALL THOSE LOVELY ATTRIBUTES.”
How do you even argue with this! The term is perception not conception! As if I would take advice from someone who clearly hasn’t read anything in her life and can’t even use the English language properly.
And no I don’t think I am beautiful or glamorous. I have no vanity because I realize that physically I am made in the image of god and physical beauty. With no brain or substance to the soul residing in that body , physical self praise means nothing ! And you obviously haven’t even read the " ugly duckling " coz then you would have known what happens in the end dear swan! but then again you don’t read so that explains it ! REMEMBER vanity is a dangerous attribute Princess Diana the most beautiful woman in the world was once bulimic due to self image issues so honestly I stay clear from considering myself any of the above that you mentioned but then again you don’t know me so you don’t know this !
And perhaps what I find most amusing is how you define a diva
Point 3 -“DEFINITION OF DIVA: 1. GORGEOUS MODEL, 2. FABULOUSLY FAMOUS, 3. DAZZLING SMILE, 4. PEOPLE LOVE THEM, 5. PEOPLE WANNA BE THEM,WANNA BE LIKE THEM OR BE AROUND THEM, 6. LONG LEGS THAT SAY 'LOVE ME' NOT ' TURN AROUND AND RUN'...ANYWAY LET ME NOT MENTION ANY MORE STUNNING QUALITIES THAT DIVAS POSSESS,SIMPLY BECAUSE I AM TOO NICE A PERSON TO MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR.”
The truth darling is…. Diva is my term it’s something I have personalized so I could empower not only myself but the lovely woman around me . Your view of what a diva is revolves around the superficial false qualities that mean nothing in the greater scheme of things. a diva is NOT a gorgeous model because guess what a model is nothing more than a clothes hanger that can walk . Their lives aren’t all that wonderful or significant and no not all models are beautiful and no not every woman is model material because we not all meant to look the same ! we all are meant to be who we are and be true to that ! we all are meant to be comfortable with the body mind and spirit that god gave us ! You try telling a diva that she is not one because is not a gorgeous model and see what she says to you ! How can you be this superficial how sad !
“Fabulously famous !” oh please you kidding me right let me not even try to justify what you saying there you obviously live in a cocoon get real !
But my favorite is how you claim a diva must have long legs ! I mean like seriously darling how stupid are you????… the hooker on the street corner has long legs what exactly does that have to do with her personality or even better her soul or her core ! I mean now you going to drive me to swear what the fuck is wrong with you ? Yes I know you have long legs but honestly are you so enthralled in your own vanity that you have now justified that as a viable attribute in someones personality ! My legs might be short but at least god made up for it and gave me your share of intelligence !
And oh honey one thing that makes me diva is a fact that no one will ever ever make me feel inferior ! so don’t break a sweat trying to ok !
Point 4 “ NOW, SIT DOWN COS U NEED TO...THE TRUTH WILL HURT...YOU HAVE ZERO OF THOSE QUALITIES, IN FACT YOU ARE ARROGANT, SELFISH, UGLY (ON THE INSIDE), A MEAN WITCH WITH NO CARE OR CONCERN FOR ANYONE OTHER THAN, YES, YOU!!!! IF YOU FIND YOURSELF LONELY ONE DAY...YOU WILL KNOW WHY.”
Do you know why I think you are delusional ? because I have wonderfull friends that have been in my life for many years that will beg to differ with you . the truth is nothing about me is false I say it how it is pulling no punches I don’t fakely go around trying to be nice to people because that would make me a fake ass hypocritical bitch and people can see right through a hypocrite and false pretenses masking catishness is not diva !
I treat everyone as a fellow human and accord them with the respect they deserve regardless or their status or rank in life. but that’s probably what makes you and I different while you expect me to bow down to the likes of you I intern am treating my fellow humans as an equal do I love everyone … offcourse not . do I have enemies? well yes I do but the thing is my enemies are fortunate enough to know where they stand with me coz like I said I am not a hypocrite !
Point 5 "I HOPE THAT THIS CARING GESTURE ON MY PART HAS BEEN HELPFUL, BECAUSE I SINCERELY HOPE THAT YOU WOULD MAKE THE NECESSARY ADJUSTMENTS TO FIRSTLY YOUR PERSONALITY AND THEN ALSO REMEMBER NOT EVERYBODY IS MEANT TO BE A DIVA!!!”
Lets get this straight you expect me to change because you have an opinion of me ! the only adjustment I’ve made is I’ve become even more determined to tell bitches like you where to get off when they try to get in my way ! you trying to help me ??? keep dreaming bitch I am who I am and if you don’t like it then jump of a shallow bridge !
you not going to change me sorry but no one has that kind of power and that’s what makes me a diva and you, just a insecure little tart that I hope will one day grow a bit of a brain , backbone and personality that revolves around more than just your long legs !
Yes you have the right to an opinion , but I have the right to tell you to shut the hell up when its unsolicited !
One day I hope I can write a book on the true definition of diva for you.. But right now I’m too busy being one so u not that lucky or maybe you just not meant to be one :-) !
Diva is a state of mind. It is being a hundred percent sure of who you are and what your capability is and then it’s about going out there and superseeding those personal expectations you have for yourself and living your life true to only you, answerable to only you and accountable to the person you strive to be !
Whenever something fuels emotion in me I write about it and thankfully I was fueled recently so here goes. I received unsolicited advice from girl who made it her personal seva to try and enlighten me on how she thinks I need to change my personality
Her words were hurtful at first …but then I taught carefully about what she was saying about how she was describing me.. But what saddened me even more is , this superficial human being had such a skew idea of the term “Diva” and here she was knocking me down so badly that not only did she create emotion in me but she brought out a inner diva that I myself did not know was down there
So her little piece of advice to me was self defeating and ironic because the very term Diva revolves around the principle of not caring about people’s opinions of you…as your own opinion of yourself has more significant value
But before I go on let’s put this in perspective and share the advice I was given because to be fair I cant rant and rave about something without having a basis to start. I've bolded her advice before i respond to it because dealing with something point by point and being specific about what you intend saying is part of been Diva ...
Point 1 :
“I THOUGHT I WOULD INBOX YOU JUST TO UPDATE YOU ON YOUR SELFISH DIVA (NOT) ATTITUDE!”
Firstly and let me be frank about this I never need an update about who I am or my attitude because I live my life according to me and not what everyone else thinks of me so not only is this unsolicited but its not required . how someone could have wasted time even trying to do this baffles me !
I have been raised by many female role models who I make my personal mentors so whenever I need advice I go to them not some pip squeak that doesn’t know me and I have never taken the time or effort to befriend because my first impression of her was that she is just a number with no real value to add to my life !
Point 2 :
“ YOU HAVE A FALSE CONCEPTION THAT YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL, STYLISH, GLAMAROUS,DIVA! WELL, ONE DAY I KNOW THAT YOU WILL THANK ME FOR ENLIGHTENING YOU ,AS TO THE TRUTH...YOU MY DEAR UGLY DUCKLING ARE FAR FROM ALL THOSE LOVELY ATTRIBUTES.”
How do you even argue with this! The term is perception not conception! As if I would take advice from someone who clearly hasn’t read anything in her life and can’t even use the English language properly.
And no I don’t think I am beautiful or glamorous. I have no vanity because I realize that physically I am made in the image of god and physical beauty. With no brain or substance to the soul residing in that body , physical self praise means nothing ! And you obviously haven’t even read the " ugly duckling " coz then you would have known what happens in the end dear swan! but then again you don’t read so that explains it ! REMEMBER vanity is a dangerous attribute Princess Diana the most beautiful woman in the world was once bulimic due to self image issues so honestly I stay clear from considering myself any of the above that you mentioned but then again you don’t know me so you don’t know this !
And perhaps what I find most amusing is how you define a diva
Point 3 -“DEFINITION OF DIVA: 1. GORGEOUS MODEL, 2. FABULOUSLY FAMOUS, 3. DAZZLING SMILE, 4. PEOPLE LOVE THEM, 5. PEOPLE WANNA BE THEM,WANNA BE LIKE THEM OR BE AROUND THEM, 6. LONG LEGS THAT SAY 'LOVE ME' NOT ' TURN AROUND AND RUN'...ANYWAY LET ME NOT MENTION ANY MORE STUNNING QUALITIES THAT DIVAS POSSESS,SIMPLY BECAUSE I AM TOO NICE A PERSON TO MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR.”
The truth darling is…. Diva is my term it’s something I have personalized so I could empower not only myself but the lovely woman around me . Your view of what a diva is revolves around the superficial false qualities that mean nothing in the greater scheme of things. a diva is NOT a gorgeous model because guess what a model is nothing more than a clothes hanger that can walk . Their lives aren’t all that wonderful or significant and no not all models are beautiful and no not every woman is model material because we not all meant to look the same ! we all are meant to be who we are and be true to that ! we all are meant to be comfortable with the body mind and spirit that god gave us ! You try telling a diva that she is not one because is not a gorgeous model and see what she says to you ! How can you be this superficial how sad !
“Fabulously famous !” oh please you kidding me right let me not even try to justify what you saying there you obviously live in a cocoon get real !
But my favorite is how you claim a diva must have long legs ! I mean like seriously darling how stupid are you????… the hooker on the street corner has long legs what exactly does that have to do with her personality or even better her soul or her core ! I mean now you going to drive me to swear what the fuck is wrong with you ? Yes I know you have long legs but honestly are you so enthralled in your own vanity that you have now justified that as a viable attribute in someones personality ! My legs might be short but at least god made up for it and gave me your share of intelligence !
And oh honey one thing that makes me diva is a fact that no one will ever ever make me feel inferior ! so don’t break a sweat trying to ok !
Point 4 “ NOW, SIT DOWN COS U NEED TO...THE TRUTH WILL HURT...YOU HAVE ZERO OF THOSE QUALITIES, IN FACT YOU ARE ARROGANT, SELFISH, UGLY (ON THE INSIDE), A MEAN WITCH WITH NO CARE OR CONCERN FOR ANYONE OTHER THAN, YES, YOU!!!! IF YOU FIND YOURSELF LONELY ONE DAY...YOU WILL KNOW WHY.”
Do you know why I think you are delusional ? because I have wonderfull friends that have been in my life for many years that will beg to differ with you . the truth is nothing about me is false I say it how it is pulling no punches I don’t fakely go around trying to be nice to people because that would make me a fake ass hypocritical bitch and people can see right through a hypocrite and false pretenses masking catishness is not diva !
I treat everyone as a fellow human and accord them with the respect they deserve regardless or their status or rank in life. but that’s probably what makes you and I different while you expect me to bow down to the likes of you I intern am treating my fellow humans as an equal do I love everyone … offcourse not . do I have enemies? well yes I do but the thing is my enemies are fortunate enough to know where they stand with me coz like I said I am not a hypocrite !
Point 5 "I HOPE THAT THIS CARING GESTURE ON MY PART HAS BEEN HELPFUL, BECAUSE I SINCERELY HOPE THAT YOU WOULD MAKE THE NECESSARY ADJUSTMENTS TO FIRSTLY YOUR PERSONALITY AND THEN ALSO REMEMBER NOT EVERYBODY IS MEANT TO BE A DIVA!!!”
Lets get this straight you expect me to change because you have an opinion of me ! the only adjustment I’ve made is I’ve become even more determined to tell bitches like you where to get off when they try to get in my way ! you trying to help me ??? keep dreaming bitch I am who I am and if you don’t like it then jump of a shallow bridge !
you not going to change me sorry but no one has that kind of power and that’s what makes me a diva and you, just a insecure little tart that I hope will one day grow a bit of a brain , backbone and personality that revolves around more than just your long legs !
Yes you have the right to an opinion , but I have the right to tell you to shut the hell up when its unsolicited !
One day I hope I can write a book on the true definition of diva for you.. But right now I’m too busy being one so u not that lucky or maybe you just not meant to be one :-) !
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)